Post College Disillusionment

It has been two years since I graduated college and I’m not even close to where I thought I would be right now. I thought I would be close to finishing a two year contract at a small town news station moving on to the next step in my career. I never thought it would take me almost a year to find a “big girl job.” But when I finally did, that job ended up being an administrative role at a government communications department, which is pretty much the complete opposite of what I thought I would get into.

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Class of 2014. Go Bulls!

I’m completely thankful that I ended up there though, we have one of the best communications departments in the state of Florida. We also have our own local public access station, where most of our programming is filmed, edited, and produced in house. It’s not hard hitting news but it’s story telling and that’s ultimately why I wanted to get into broadcasting in the first place. I’m lucky enough that they know what I want to do with my career, so I get a good amount of projects on the television side which helps reinforce my future career goals.

Even with this great opportunity I felt lost and I realized I wasn’t the only one my age going through the same thing. A lot of people who are ages 22 to 25 are either graduating college or have been out of school for a few years. For the first time you’re truly out on your own, paying your own bills, scheduling your own appointments, and so on. It’s one of the weirdest times in a persons life because 1. You’re basically pushed out into the real world and told by the more grown up adults “Good luck! See ya, wouldn’t want to be ya!” and 2. You actually have to figure out how to be like those more grown up adults mostly through trial and error. Then next thing  you know it you have to start paying off your student loans and your bank account ceases to exist as we know it.

 

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I read this article about how 23 is the hardest year of your life, and let me tell you so far 23 was the worst year of my life. I turned 24 almost five months ago and I’m still recovering from the mess that was being 23. One of the few bright spots was the fact that me and my roommates became best friends and the fact that we still talk everyday even though we all live in different places now. That aside 23 was a hard year to get through and 24 is slightly easier but there’s still a bunch of things you have to go through before you find your place in the world. Basically put it’s life and it’s hard but it can also be fun once you realize that it’s not permanent. You will become successful, you will figure out what you want in life, and you will find love or a bunch of cats if that’s what you want (I’m not here to judge, I myself want a husband, 5 dogs, and a cat). Basically one day you’ll look back and realize that the struggle was real but the struggle was there to help you appreciate your future success. Now I don’t know for sure because like I said I’m still living the struggle, but Tina Fey and Oprah were struggling at my age and now look at where they are. Looking at examples like that gives me hope.

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I might not be exactly where I thought I was going to be right now but ultimatley I know it’s okay to struggle, I know it’s okay to feel lost, and I also know it’s okay to have hope that every experience that I go through is ultimately getting me to where I want to be in life. And with some hard work and motivation I’m hoping I’ll get to where I want to be, even if I don’t know for sure what that is just yet.

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23 Things You Should Learn Before Turning 23

Recently I’ve started to realize how fast this year has gone by. My birthday is only a few days after the new year starts so whenever I realize the new year is almost here for everyone else, it also means a new year (age wise) will be starting for me too. I’ll be turning 23 in a little less than 1 month and there’s a lot that I’ve learned this year and a handful of things that I’m still learning. I started thinking about it so I decided to make a list of what those things are, or aren’t, and maybe by the time January 4th rolls around I’ll have learned everything that I put on this list. Here it is, the 23 things you should learn before you turn 23.

 

1. You don’t always have to have your life together

2. It’s not your business to judge other people

3. Exclusion is for high school

4. It’s okay to cry as much as you emotionally need to

5. It’s okay to do your own thing

6. Worrying about the past is a waste of time

7. You should try to get out of your comfort zone

8. Making new friends is an important part of life

9. Make decisions based on what you want to do, factor other people in later

10. Romantic relationships aren’t something you should make fun of, they’re actually a wonderful thing to experience.

11. Stop saying things like “My life sucks” or “Forever Alone” because it probably doesn’t and you’re probably not, respectively.

12. A grown up wardrobe is something you should start accumulating.

13. Getting drunk to the point of blacking out is something for your 21 year old self, you’re 23 drink like an adult.

14. Say thank you to your parents every chance you get (Thanks for everything Mom and Dad!).

15. Put your phone down and interact with the world around you, you might miss something great if you don’t.

16. It’s okay to treat yourself every now and then.

17. It’s okay to laugh at yourself, especially if someone is trying to laugh at you. It shows you can rise above someone being rude and that you don’t take yourself so seriously.

18. Don’t always resort to buying fast food, you’re not in college anymore so try to prepare your meals as much as possible.

19. Try to start a regular gym routine, or go to a fitness class. Good physical fitness is an important thing to have as you get older.

20. Don’t sweat the small stuff

21. Remind yourself of a few reasons to be happy everyday, I did the 100 happy days challenge and it made me realize that even on bad days there are reasons to be happy.

22. Everything will be alright

23. Make the most out of everyday

22 has been a real roller coaster of a year so I’m excited to move on to a new year with new possibilities.This list helped me realize how much I’ve learned and I hope I can grow from it in the next year. If you’re feeling like this past year has been a trying one for yourself, make your own list of things you’ve learned so you can put everything into perspective. Trust me it definitely helps!